Happy New Year to everyone celebrating right now. I just got home from Rosh Hashanah dinner with my family. It was the first holiday I’ve ever had without my son. He is away at college, and it was hard not having him at the dinner table.
We celebrate the Jewish new year, and we think about the past year. What did I do right? What did I do wrong? What could I do better?
I am really good at being selfless. I am really good at thinking about everyone around me. I am really good at taking care of everyone.
When I spoke to a wonderful spiritual awareness coach, she said that she realized it was time to be the main character in her own life, and I shuddered at that thought. I don’t want to be the main character. My life is so much about my kids. I told my friends I’m going to need to get a life when I am done being their uber driver. I know that moms aren’t supposed to lose themselves in their children but……
As I sit here thinking about what I have done wrong the past year, I start talking to myself:
I’m sorry for not giving you grace and understanding.
I’m sorry for not putting you first.
I’m sorry for criticizing you.
I’m sorry for every time I say something negative to you.
I’m sorry for not being your biggest cheerleader.
I’m sorry for any time I didn’t believe in you.
I’m sorry for every time I get angry and short with you.
I’m sorry for calling you dumb.
I’m sorry for putting you aside.
I’m sorry for thinking you are superwoman and expecting too much.
I’m sorry for not giving you enough rest.
I’m sorry for not being patient with you.
I’m sorry for getting frustrated with you so easily.
I’m sorry for not thinking you are enough.
I told my friend the other day that I was done criticizing myself. Done looking at fat on my body. Done criticizing how I look. Done. I have arrived to a thankful era. Thankful for my body. Thankful for my brain. Thankful for who I am.
Maybe I’m not ready to be the main character in my life – but maybe I can put myself first sometimes. Maybe I can put aside anger, frustration, criticism and be kind, patient and accepting of myself. Maybe I can give myself more grace and understanding.
I know I am supposed to be thinking of the wrongs I have made. I think I do my best to be kind and give to everyone in my life. This year I am going to make sure that all comes back to myself. I hope I can inspire you to do the same thing.
Laughing, Learning, Loving,
Rebecca Greene, LCSW-R
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